Time management may not be your forte, but there is a way for you to own your time and own your day!
In working with professionals and organizations all over the country I have heard one thing that has surprised me (or maybe it shouldn’t). All types of people that I come in contact with will pull me aside and say, “What if I hate my job?” I’m starting to talk more about this when I consult with the leadership team. In this video I share the two choices you have if your truly hate your job.
One of the keys of High Performance and Happiness is making relationships a priority. If you’re married or have a significant other in your life, I HIGHLY recommend weekly date night. Making time for the ones you love helps them to know that they are important to you AND keeps the relationship alive. Memories and connections keep relationships thriving.
Not sure what to do? Do you ever spend half of your date saying, “What do you want to do?” with the reply, “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
Make a list! My friends and I came up with a list of things we could do in our community that were both free or under $5, as a reminder that dates DON’T have to be expensive. They also don’t have to be “dinner and movie”, or our usual, “run errands and go to Costco.”
Your budget may be different, so choose some free things and some things within your budget. Make the list now, and then you’ll have weeks worth of ideas waiting. Check out your city’s recreational website for community events, concerts, activities, farmers markets, and more!
While this list is specific to where we live, perhaps it will give you ideas to generate your list!
Things you can do for free in Utah County & Provo, Utah:
- Go dream house hunting.
- Go for a drive up the canyon. (Provo Canyon, American Fork Canyon and Nebo Canyon are close!)
- Go for a drive up to Squaw Peak.
- Go to Pioneer Museum on 500 West in Provo.
- Go to BYU Art Museum for the free exhibit.
- Drive to Sundance and walk around the grounds.
- “Rent” movies from friends.
- Take a picnic to the park.
- Go to the Deseret Industries or Good Will and look around in the back for treasures.
- Go visit an elderly or widower in your neighborhood.
- Do service somewhere together. (community options available at justserve.org)
- Go to one of the free concerts in Provo in the summer.
- Go to free movies in the park in Provo in the summer.
- Put the kids to bed and have a candlelight dessert in the front room.
- Play a game together after kids go to bed.
- Go for a walk and talk about what you want to do when you are empty nesters and retired.
- Go to a new development and walk through unfinished homes.
- Walk on the Provo River Trail.
- Go “window shopping” at a mall.
- Go dream furniture shopping. Sit on every couch to find the one that’s most comfortable.
- Go to the library or bookstore and read magazines or books. Talk about the funny things you find.
- Go somewhere crazy and people watch. Don’t you ever wonder what their lives are like?
- Go to the Springville Art Museum.
- Take a tour of your Youth. Drive around to different places and tell funny stories.
- Drive to Bridal Veil Falls and wade around in the water.
- Drive up to Vivian Park with a blanket and watch the stars come out. Take bug spray!
- Find festivals. Peach Days, strawberry days, art festivals in small towns, Llama Days etc. Often free to get in to watch the concerts and see the booths. Can also be great for people watching.
- Go for a hike.
- Put the kids to bed and pull out old pictures of your marriage and of each of you as kids. Again, tell funny stories.
- Drive somewhere remote. Turn up the music in the car and dance outside. (or make-out inside).
- At Christmas time – drive around and look at Christmas lights. Play Christmas music or the radio.
Things you can do for under $10:
- Buy of bag of popsicles and go hand them out just outside or at the testing center at BYU.
- Go get ice cream.
- Go to the grocery store. Each person has $2.50. Split up and come back in 5 minutes with the biggest thing you can find for $2.50. Pick a winner and take your food to the park.
- Get a foot long sub sandwich and share. Take it to a park.
- Rent a movie from Redbox or Amazon Prime.
- Take $10 to the DI and find a treasure you want to take home. Or, each person gets $5 to buy the other a gift.
- Go to the Farmers Market and try 3 new fruits or veggies, or buy a loaf of fresh baked bread.
- Go Karaoke (available in downtown Provo)
Splurge date ideas:
- Go to a trampoline park.
- Go see a play
- Go to a concert.
- Take the tram ride at Sundance.
- Walk the Thanksgiving Point Gardens.
- Get pedicures.
Is there a goal you want, but your current efforts aren’t helping you get the results you desire? In this KSL segment we are talking about for strategies to supercharge your goals and your results.
Here’s the segment
According to the Association of Psychological Science, “Feelings of success in the workplace occur to the extent that people see they are able to grow, meet job challenges and by pursuing and attaining goals that are important and meaningful.” Studies also show that simply pursuing goals and interests bring greater levels of happiness and satisfaction – personally and professionally.
Question: Goal setting seems simple, but it’s not always easy, what’s your first tip you would give someone who wants better results?
Michelle: Get out of your head, and tie your goals to physical activities. Goal setting IS a mental game, but it’s the physical things we do that help us break bad habits and replace them with activities that bring results.. Don’t think about your goals, or type them in your phone WRITE them down. Physically connecting with your goals is powerful. Also, it’s not the things we think, it’s the things we DO that make a difference. Don’t just create a goal, write down what daily, weekly and monthly actions you’ll take to get there.
Question: Do you think it’s better to go it alone or to enlist help?
Michelle: Find someone who will keep you accountable. Studies show that if you have a good accountability partner you’re 65% more likely to succeed, but don’t just tell someone what you’re up to! Take it one step further, if you have regular accountability meetings you’re 95% more likely to succeed. Also, not all friends or spouses are good accountability partners. Someone needs to be supportive with out judgment and also needs to push without judgement as well.
Question: What do you think holds people back from getting the results they want?
Michelle: It’s not that people can’t accomplish a goal, it’s that they don’t make time for it. But the truth is that it’s not just making time, it’s making room, which means you often have to let something go. Your days are currently full, so what are you going to eliminate from your life in order to let something new in? Do you need to decrease time spent on social media or digital distractions? if so, set times on your phone to kick you out of social media apps or make a habit that you won’t open digital devices until you’ve worked on your goal for the day. Is there a task you need to outsource to help you be successful? Do you need to get better sleep so you have more energy? As part of your planning, consider what needs to removed from your life so your goals aren’t held hostage by your busy schedule. SCHEDULE time in your day for the actions that will bring you to success.
Question: What is your final thought or tip to up level your goal setting and goal achieving results?
Michelle: Block out time each week to evaluate your progress. Whether it’s Friday afternoon before the weekend, or Monday morning before you start your routines look at your goal AND your efforts and ask yourself, what worked this week? What didn’t work this week and what needs to change? Don’t be afraid to change your habits as you move forward. Your destination will stay the same but the way you get there may need some creativity. Success is not the destination, it’s the practice. And practicing evaluation will help the goal stay fresh.
Here are the books I recommended:
Of all the personal development books I’ve read: How Will You Measure Your Life by Clayton Christensen is my favorite https://amzn.to/2IUwjQ3
This book changed my business and made it more profitable in one easy read. Profit First by Mike Michalowicz https://amzn.to/2GUCb9H
1. The Leaders Voice by Clark and Crossland https://amzn.to/2DoU3ay
2. Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath https://amzn.to/2IuNwyZ
3. Tribe of Mentors by Timothy Ferriss https://amzn.to/2IuOrQi
4. Yes You Can by Natalie Turner https://amzn.to/2HnduD2
5. It’s Your Ship by Michael Abrashoff https://amzn.to/2GuOZU0
6. Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek https://amzn.to/2DlAK1M
7. Power of Storytelling by Ty Bennett https://amzn.to/2GuqPZJ
8. Atomic Habits by James Clear https://amzn.to/2XnUdGw
9. Rejection Proof by Jia Jang https://amzn.to/2IrTD7t
10. Building A Story Brand by Donald Miller https://amzn.to/2Is0GwH
11. Where There’s Hope by Elizabeth Smart https://amzn.to/2UJwR1b
12. The Coaching Habit Say less, ask more and change the way you lead forever by Michael Bungay Stainer https://amzn.to/2Gs9gbE
13. Crushing It by Gary Vaynerchuck https://amzn.to/2DhrRpJ
14. Good To Great by Jim Collins https://amzn.to/2GuQce0
15. Dog Poop Initiative by Kirk Weisler https://amzn.to/2DmMtNx
16. Dare to Lead by Brene Brown https://amzn.to/2UMZXwH
17. Radical Candor by Kim Scott https://amzn.to/2VbahxY
18. Four disciplines of Execution by Stephen Covey and Chris McChesney https://amzn.to/2VaTye8
19. Energy Leadership by Bruce Schneider https://amzn.to/2Pmsofa
20. Killer Angels by Michael Shaara https://amzn.to/2IurBYI
21. The Once & Future King by T. H. White https://amzn.to/2Pf8zpQ
22. Flow by Millay Csikszentmihalyi https://amzn.to/2IuAUYD
23. Execution by Ram Charan https://amzn.to/2GlcKwk
24. The Forgotten Man – Amity Shales https://amzn.to/2PhdZRn
25. The 12 Rules for Life and Anecdote for Chaos – Jordan Peterson https://amzn.to/2DlR3LM
Sheryl Sandberg, author of the book Lean In, writes that we should stop telling little girls they’re bossy, and start telling little girls that they have leadership skills. As these women enter the workplace, communicating, speaking up and feeling part of the conversation can be a challenge, without being labeled as “bossy”.
I did a Q&A to answer some of these questions about empowering women
Question: What’s your first recommendation for women to find their voice in an organization?
Michelle: Contribute in meetings. Speak up when you agree. Provide additional ideas when you disagree. Don’t just leave the comments for the vocal few. Even introverts need to find their voice and contribute on their teams, and in their organizations. Stand up for people, champion projects and share your voice.
Question: When there are problems on their organization or team, how can they speak up and contribute without sounding bossy?
Michelle: Find and share solutions more than complaints. One of the ways you can add the most value to your team and organization is to provide solutions without complaining. This is great tip for men and women. Sometimes in an effort to encourage change we share all the things that aren’t working, but it’s hard for management to respond because it can be perceived as having a bad attitude. Instead, provide and offer solutions and be creative when it comes different ways to address issues. Managers the trait they wish every employee had was the ability to problem solve without complaining.
Question: What if a “problem” escalates into a disagreement, or if you feel like you’re not quite sure how to respond?
Michelle: One of the best ways to find your voice is to know what to say AND when to say it. When things get heated, give yourself permission to table the conversation and revisit it when emotions cool down. Also, practice the phrase “It seems like you’ve had time to think about this, could you give me a day to think through my thoughts and I can come back to you with some ways we can resolve this issue” or “I may need a day or two to think through this situation, could we revisit this conversation on Friday after I’ve given it some careful thought?” Sometimes you need time to consider the right response so you don’t say things you don’t mean.
Question: What if someone takes your idea after you have already shared it?
Michelle: This is the MOST COMMON complaint we hear at our events. Women will share an idea in a meeting and then later in the meeting or another day someone will share the SAME idea and claim it as theirs. That can be discouraging, and if you’re gutsy, be willing to stand up for your idea. However, “Thank you for validating my suggestion” sounds better than “Hey, that was my idea!” In the moment, that can be tricky to pull off without attitude. If this seems to be happening to you frequently, practice a validation statement before you go into your next meeting. Also, remember that passion is okay. If your emotion feels competitive or combative you may be criticized for your emotions. Lead with passion and a commitment for the best interest in the team and organization, and you may find that this positive approach inspires people to lead with passionate positivity.
We love men and aren’t men bashers, but there is something powerful about a group of women getting together to learn and support each other. For more information about our annual Power Women event for female professionals, check out:
This segment on KSL Browser 5.0 is for all the women professionals who don’t feel “heard” in their organizations. In this few minutes, I share three things you can do to speak up and make a difference at your place of business.
If you want to learn more about our High performance leadership event for women, go to http://www.PowerWomenLead.com
Check it out and leave a comment & a like! I would love to know what you think! I know Lynn Bodnar (creator of the Momoir Series) would also appreciate your feedback!!